It’s understandable that statements like this hurt, but all children, adopted or not often say hurtful things because they themselves are hurting. When an adopted child says statements like this it is probably because this is very real layer to the complexities involved with being adopted. Instead of reacting to the insensitive nature of their words it would be more beneficial to the relationship to convey that you understand why they feel that way and that you are sorry adoption sometimes feels like this. Helping your adopted child feel comfortable sharing everything, even when it might hurt your feelings is vital to a stronger, healthier and more transparent relationship.